If you achieved success in finding a (new) ANR/ABF partner in the past year, then many congratulations to you! I hope you will be able build something beautiful with your partner for years to come, or repeat your success if it came to an earlier end.

If you're in the same boat as me though, 2024 was unfortunately a year without success. So: here's to better luck and hopefully many ANR/ABF partner search successes for the new year that is 2025!🥂 I wish you all the best of luck in finding that one unlikely gem out there!

If your new year's resolution for 2025 is indeed to find a (new) ANR/ABF partner, then consider applying to join this page's accompanying private partner search page, r/AdultNursingPrivate, which is the safer, better regulated and more trusted alternative to the public page, away from the weirdos, anonymous pervs, scammers, sellers and catfishes.

Because this page is private, its contents are only visible to approved members. Anonymous bad actors with little to no skin in the game will therefore not get very far on this page — if anywhere at all — because bad behaviour actually results in consequences for them.

Also, the page is setup to be tilted more in favour of female users, to improve the gender balance.

• Women, seeking men join freely, posting an ad is optional.

• Male users must apply by submitting their personal ad first. The rules (link) for this personal ad go a good bit beyond just the rules of the public page with requirements for tone, maturity and relevance.

What's in it for women?

• Significantly higher effort and better quality M4F posts

• Safety from anonymous thirsty anons. All men finding you via the private page are obliged to have written an ad of their own that you can read. Anonymous reddit users cannot find you through this page.

• Overall better behaviour from males. Men who send low quality messages or dick pics get banned, not just from posting but also from further seeing the contents of the page.

What's in it for men?

• No catfishes, sellers, scammers.

• More women. Yep! I can't give exact numbers but there are definitely more women requesting to join the page than I have observed posting F4M posts on the public page. Turns out if you actually offer a space where they are and feel safe, and where men are better behaved, they will actually come!

How to join

Simply fill in the 'Request to join' textbox when visiting https://www.reddit.com/r/AdultNursingPrivate/ and hit 'Send', or if this option is not showing, simply message the mods (link).

MEN, before requesting to join, please — and I can not stress this enough — READ. THE. RULES. FIRST. -->>> LINK. It is not good enough to just say that you're "genuine". To join, you must show that you have read and understand the rules by submitting your rules-compliant(!) personal ad first. If you find your request is going unanswered it's probably because your request clearly shows that have not read the rules.

Ladies, in your request to join please introduce yourself as a woman (F4M if you are only seeking men, F4F if you are only seeking other women or F4A if both). Please make sure you read the rules — at least the ones that apply to you — here (link) first.