Just wanted to share that I’ve been successful in meeting an ABF partner. He took the time to read through my entire post. He also read through my profile. This made it much easier to have a good back and forth conversation to start off since he wasn’t asking questions that had already been answered in my post & profile. I read through his too. His introduction to me wasn’t crass or vulgar. He was polite and informative as to what he was looking for and why he thought we might be a good match without going into lewd detail and provided me with a SFW photo as well. He was a gentleman and that made him stand out from the dozens of losers that send “Hey” , one liners, 🍆 pics, “I’m not in your area but..”, and guys that clearly hadn’t read the entirety of my post- much less my profile. He was a little nervous and shy at first, but we took our time texting, talking a bit , and then meeting up for a couple platonic dates before we had our first intimate encounter. On the dates we conversed over food & drinks focusing on getting to know each other with regards to hobbies, politics, and general date topics. We didn’t focus or discuss much about ABF on the first date or the second since we already knew much of what we were looking for from reading each others profiles and posts. We saved the topic of ABF for texting and talking on the phone afterwards our dates. I appreciated that we could get to know each other on a more platonic level at first because I think we both felt more at ease and less nervous after the first two dates. Last night was our third ( or maybe fourth?) date and it was sweet, sexy, & intimate as we progressed from conversing and eating to physical intimacy. It was not awkward since we’d already spent some time out together on dates and have been communicating frequently, not randomly . I think the things that stand out for me the most are being aware & being a gentleman. Reading someone’s ENTIRE post and looking into their profile is a part of being aware, paying attention, & listening. No one likes to repeat themselves or answer questions they’ve already answered. So being aware by paying attention, listening , & reading are key. It shows you’re invested. It’s super annoying to have my time ( or yours) wasted because you skipped over important details like “NO married men”, “available only on weekends”, “only willing to travel to ___” . So make sure to read through a person’s entire post before contacting them, and check out their other posts too if you want to stand out from the crowd- trust me, she WILL notice and appreciate you took the to read those and respond accordingly! Being a gentleman is the icing on the cake. I particularly favor a chivalrous man. If you’re not willing to be thoughtful or treat me like a lady, I am not interested. I do not want to feel like a thing you reach for when you’re bored, so don’t be random. Be thoughtful and purposeful. My abf partner has mentioned dates he would like us to do together in the future, he plans and asks me my schedule ahead of time- not at the last minute. He’s mentioned he would like to take me lingerie shopping. All of these things are thoughtful and I appreciate him even more. In our time together last night I made sure to make him feel like I appreciated all his efforts and rewarded him with some extra “bonuses”. I just wanted to share that finding an ABF partner IS possible if you are willing to do the work and be patient. There is a drastic imbalance in the male to female ratio here on Reddit ( and many other platforms) so if you want any chance of success, make yourself standout to a woman by not being like the rest; lazy, crude, inconsiderate, & clueless. Best of luck to you all !