I'm on a healing journey and recently my resentment has shifted from my alcoholic father to my codependent mother. It's somehow easier to process that my father has a disease which causes him to act the way he does.

But I just can't understand my sober mother who even to this day pampers my father and clearly suffers because of it. When I was 16 years old my father got physically abusive and social workers got involved. They told my mother she has three options - move out with me, get me an apartment to live by myself or get me taken to state custody.

She chose to kick me out of my childhood home to live by myself. At that time I saw it as a blessing, but later I've realized that she basically abandoned her only child. I wasn't ready to fully take care of myself, and being forced to grow up so quickly feels just so wrong. I had to start working along school to be able to pay rent and my grades dropped. I feel sad because she was supposed to protect me but instead she chose my father.

I like my mom as a person but I have a really hard time getting over this. If anyone has any advice or thoughts on this I'd appreciate sharing them.