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Hey there, I’m 38 and work an insignificant IT position at a hospital. I’m 5’6’’ and 135lbs with short, wavy hair and light brown skin that borders on pale during winters . Very plain looking with black eyes and black hair. I don’t wear makeup and am NOT your “standard” cute woman with perfect hair, make-up, gel nails, laser facials or fake lashes. If you’re fine with a plain Jane then continue reading.

ME : 1. Extremely hygienic, expect the same. 2. Extremely well groomed, expect the same. No mile long hair poking out of nostrils or food stuck in untrimmed beards. 3. A cuddle monster. I need to give atleast 6 hugs a day to feel normal. I LOVE cuddling. 4. I don’t smoke, don’t drink and don’t do weed. The reason for that is, all these items impede my ability to focus on my health and goals. 5. I have my independent apartment in Western MA and would like to keep it that way. I will host if we get close enough to each other via chat & public meetings. 6. I am not an outdoor person in terms of swimming in a lake or camping in the woods. Since we will both have our own apartments, we will be free to do our own thing. 7. I am mostly an inside person or a sit under a tree looking at the trees and birds person. 8. I keep my phone on silent mode when I am walking in nature or enjoying a tree. I stress on trees because they are my favorite places to be. I love ancient Maples & Firs. There is an enchanted peace under their branches. 9. I don’t share pictures via Reddit. If we can connect via chat, let’s arrange a meetup at a local public park. 20. I am slim. I am super attracted to stronger, bigger men. Please don’t misunderstand that as me asking for a gym rat. Most men are naturally stronger than me. As long as you are taller than me and not obese, I will be attracted to you. 21. Speaking of attraction - For me it occurs mentally first, then emotionally, and last of all - physically. I do not do one night stands or FWB. If you have a brown girl fetish stay away please. 22. I am loyal. I don’t have facades. I won’t lie to you. I will be transparent. I am clingy in terms of physical contact so only text me if you pine for hugs, hand holding, weekend walks and cuddles. 23. I work 7am to 5pm - Mon to Fri. 24. Don’t have kids or pets yet. Who knows about the future. Right now, I want to cherish my solitude and quiet life. 25. I will not respond to short, clipped, or effortless texts. 26. I love emotional, intelligent men who can understand some poetry, some melancholy and some insanity. I have that all in me.

WHAT I WANT :

1. LOCAL, local , local only. Be within 15 minutes of Pittsfield 01201.
2. Walks on the weekends at Ashuwillticook or just in my neighborhood if you like.
3. Go grocery shopping together.
4. Talk or just be there while I cook lunch for us. I will hear all your stories and thoughts.
5. Be my ride if I ever get sick. Know that I will show up for you if you ever call me in a pinch.
6. I want to hold your hand. Intertwine our fingers. Snuggle into your shoulder. Feel your arms around me. I want to embrace you with all your minor flaws. At night, I want to feel safe and close enough to ask you to stay. Gradually learn to be around at my most vulnerable - while I shower - while I brush my teeth- while I scrape my tongue - while I moisturize my skin before bed. I want to climb into bed with you and feel your warmth next to me. Maybe hold hands and talk until we sleep. Full trust. Sharing our feelings. Full transparency. Full privacy. Don’t discuss me with your friends. Discuss me with me. I want to be able to tell you the betrayals and loves that I experienced before you. I want forehead kisses. Cheek kisses. Nose boops. A sense of togetherness and commitment. I’m NOT looking to marry anyone. I AM LOOKING for a committed cuddle buddy who can understand what I wrote and is willing to go slow. Give me your attention. Don’t be texting 3 other women in my presence. Never go behind my back . Don’t like me ? Say it . Leave with dignity. I don’t commit lies or manipulation. I don’t tolerate it either. Allow me to rub your hands- your back- your feet- your scalp. Allow me to comfort you. Hold you. Love on you.

YOU : 1. Local. If you’re not local please don’t text me. 2. Taller and heavier than me ( Again I like to be the daintier & smaller person in my personal relationships. It’s about how I get physically attracted). 3. If you believe you are a 6’ tall, blue eyed muscular version of Adonis - look for a goddess. Don’t text me. 4. You shower twice a day, groom your hair, brush your teeth and wipe your messes. 5. You have your own apartment, your own job, your own money, your own vehicle and ALL you want from me is committed cuddles without strings attached. 6. You get many many bonus points for attraction if you can build things with your hands- fix a broken faucet - change tires on a car - paint your own house - put in a hardwood floor or a patio - plant a tree - take down a tree- fix a toilet . Men that have such life skills make me weak in the knees. Attraction is quadrupled. That’s the opposite of my white collar job. Alternately, if you are white collar - an MD or a lawyer I may or may not feel attraction because I am white collar too. It’s very boring. 7. You are a cuddle monster. 8. You don’t hide your phone in general. Put it away for God’s sake. 9. You keep your politics and religion private. 10. You don’t go around town talking about who I am , where I work & what our arrangement is. I don’t do well with gossip. Honor privacy. 12. You do not smoke anything. 13. Preferably no drinking or weed but I don’t mind that if you do that outside of our together-time. 14. You preferably don’t have kids like I don’t. If you do, I am ok with that too - it’s just that I’d hate to take time away from someone’s child. 15. Again, getting laid is not your goal with me. No sex.

Thanks for reading my post. Thank you.