My mom and her sister were adopted thru Catholic charities, and the adoption papers list her adoptive parents as her birth parents, money was exchanged, it's all very hinky. So my mom refuses to do a DNA test, doesn't want to know anything. Both of my adoptive grandparents have passed away, my grandpa passed in Feb. Well, mom found a box of papers that lists her mothers name as Mary Mayer/Meyer? My mother was adopted after a call in the middle of the night from a priest who "had a baby for them" and picked up from a Covent in Red Bud, IL. My DNA shows 42% Irish too.

However, since my mom refused to take a test, I asked my dad to. Which lead to a whole story of my mom informing me after 41 years, that there is a extremely high possibility that my dad's best friend is my father.

I'm waiting for my dad's DNA now, he ordered it last night from myheritage.com, which is where I got mine done, for free, bc I'm a child of an adoptee.

I'm having a lot of emotions about this bc my dad still is best friends with the guy, Who I've seen at various places I've worked, staring at me from a table, he's mentioned it to my mom a few times, so he's obviously been thinking about this for years, as has my mom. I think my dad is clueless but idk. So wtf do I do with this info? I don't want my dad to get an email with this surprise, if the other guy is indeed my father. Plus, I'm pretty sure my dad is not the guy who would still be hanging out with someone who had sex with his wife, even if it was 41 years ago. Regardless of who my real dad is, doesn't the man who raised me and then paid child support , deserve to know this happened?