Hey everyone,

My mother passed away when I was four. I was raised, for as long as I can remember, by what I assume was a guardian family--people completely unrelated to me. My father(?) had no dealings with me but I understood he kept parental rights in order to collect my mother's survivor's benefits check. He was an addict. After his recent death, I was told he was not my biological father. He is listed on the copy of my birth certificate as a father. Naturally, I am pretty confused.

I have contacted my birth state in the USA (Connecticut) to see if they have an adoption on file or any information. I have gotten no closure or information from any living or deceased relatives about this. No one would ever talk about it.

I am wondering if anyone went through the same situation and might have some insight to where I can get proof of this. I had a very traumatic upbringing that was extra confusing because of being raised by strangers with no explanation. It took me many years to get on my feet, as I was on my own as far as the guardian family was concerned when I was about 16.

I am hoping this might open up some doors for scholarship opportunities for me, as I am a current college student in my 30's. If nothing else, I'd like the closure for WTF was going on in my childhood.

Thanks!