Okay. So I’d say I’m a fairly average sort of bloke. Nice even. Like, really nice? That’s what most people would say about me, but they also don’t really know I’m harbouring a lot of stuff that’s really only just starting to rise to the surface.

On the outside, I’m ’happily married’. We have fairly well, ‘grown up’ kids. The house, the cars. A great career. Good money. All of that. The Aussie dream, right? Not exactly…

I feel like I’m living a life I don’t really connect with anymore. Call it a mid-life crisis, if you will. But the fact is, I have desires and dreams that have been well suppressed (even stamped out) until now, for around 30yrs or so.

My wife has never had a libido, and I’ve been the instigator of anything physical since the very beginning. In that time, things have gradually become worse, and it’s been a couple of years since we were last intimate. It’s just not her thing and she’s deeply conservative - and quite dismissive about it, despite trying to have honest conversations for years now. I feel invisible, not seen and completely overlooked, which sucks - but as sad as it’s made me, I’ve also learned to live with it. In fact, she’s told me exactly that too - which hurts a bit, especially thinking I still have so many good years ahead of me.

The idea that having a libido in your late 40’s is somehow ‘strange’ (as she sees it) just irks me. I love my wife, but I’m also aware that the clock is ticking and I still have half a life to life. So… I’ve decided to do something about it. I feel awful about this. I feel ashamed. But, far out… It’s a tough spot to be in and I guess I’m looking for adventure.

In saying that, a great connection is everything to me in all things intimacy-related, so I guess I’m also looking for someone with a killer sense of humour, a great smile, easy going - and just easy to get along with (and hey, just as nervous about this as me)?

If you’re a lady in the same situation (I figure there’s one or two out there), and even halfway interested in chatting, I’d love to hear from you. Obviously discretion is everything here. I find all of this massively bit awkward and nerve-wracking. But I guess I’m biting the bullet and laying it all down.

No need to respond in comments. Just DM me if you think this might be you?