Well, so I have had a quite rough history as far as my sexuality is concerned. I grew up as straight and if someone told me I was going to be into men 10 years from when I was 18 I would have given that dude a big smack on the phase, yet here I am.

For most of my adult life, I slowly began to develop attraction towards men, and I even fell in love with one online as well as experimented with "some toys" in bed. Basically I have gone from 0% men 100% women, to 0% men 30% women, to 30% men and 80% women, all the way to having almost a gay season of 90% men and 10% women, only to now after coming out to my wife having it stabilized to around 70% men and 50% women. Now I am happily married to a woman and romantically she has always been and will always be the one I love the most, and I can't ever imagine leaving her for someone else. But sexually, it has been a roller coaster. There were moments when I smashed her everyday and loved it, then there were entire month where I didn't feel any cravings for sex and my wife became almost suspicious and insecure because of that.

So my sexuality has shifted alot, but has remained on a graysexual spectrum. I don't really have a craving for it, and visually if I see just a naked woman or a naked man on a beach, it does nothing to my package down there. Basically I am immune to having involuntary erections. But when I sit and having fantasies about doing the deed with a man, oh boy. And when I am in the mood and me and my wife do the deed in bed, again, oh boy.

Now why am I writing all of this, and why in this group? Because 3 months ago I came out to my wife as bisexual, and it is a label that I deem true to me. But as I am in the process of being more open about my sexuality, I stumble upon abrosexuality, something I called fluidity before, but seem to mean the same thing but just more specific.

Thus, I have found 5 labels that almost perfectly describes my sexuality:

• Bisexual

• Graysexual

• Abrosexual (or what I called "fluid" before)

• Panromantic (as romantically I can fall in love with any person regardless of gender)

So, I am all of these labels, but as you can imagine, it would be quite ridulous to come out in public as "bisexual graysexual abrosexual and panromantic". People would look at my as if I were brainwashed, because of all these terms most people only understand bisexual, and even that label is widly misunderstood. Honestly, I feel there are too many labels that are so similar to eachother, that normal people and even queer people like me have difficulty telling the difference.

In order for me to make a good choice on which label to choose, I may ask some of you in this community:

• Do you have multiple labels that apply to you?

• If so, which one of these labels do you choose as your "main label", and why? Do you choose a label that is the most specific possible, or the one that is the most widely recognized but where your sexual "signature" still fits within the definition?