As a dude, it’s a double edged sword.

I actually prefer specifically lesbians for individual therapy, no joke.

Sis…🤦🏿‍♂️

OP, you should look into Codependents Anonymous.  They have women’s only groups.

That’s…why she feels guilt…

No.

The victims are the spouses who got cheated on.

OP made her bed.  Let her take accountability 

It is her fault for cheating.  Stop infantilizing her.  If she was a dude you would be doing this.

Else, what’s stopping me from murdering someone and then invoking the abuse and severe PTSD I suffer from childhood?

Calling him a rapist infantilizes OP. She made the choice to say yes and did so with enthusiasm

Nah dude, OP is playing the “woman tears” card to avoid taking accountability for her own infidelity.

Such bullshit that folks here are eating it up.

Therapist is a creep, but OP was an affair waiting to happen.  If it wasn’t the therapist it would have been someone else

It was 100% spot on.

This is one of the more common scenarios that lead to women cheating.

OP is a victim, but also a perpetrator.

One can be both.

Must be nice to be a white woman.  Literally nobody holds you accountable for shit

Not just that, but fuck that guy for his asexual orientation.  He should have thought about OPs needs before choosing to be that way 

Depressed and female seems to be a free pass in the therapy world to do whatever the fuck you want without accountability.  Especially if white woman.

No, probably just someone who was cheated on

If therapist is POS, so is OP

No, I understand what you were saying.

Your comment just displays a poor grasp of human motivations.

And everyone here enabling her self victimization pity party.

Zero accountability to herself, her family, or her own values.

Our society is falling apart because we’re all just a bunch of self pitying navel gazers who aren’t willing to show up for ourselves or commitments.

How is a man whose wife cheated on him embarrassed?  You’re seriously asking this?

Do none of you here have any empathy for men?  Jfc

As someone gaslit by therapists like you who don’t think wives should be held accountable for their decisions to cheat, I think you’re allowing OP to not hold herself accountable for the harm she has caused her family.

Let’s say she didn’t cheat, but got drunk and drove and killed someone.  Would you be coddling her and telling her it’s not her fault, she was vulnerable and needed help she didn’t get?

Nah, you’d hold her accountable for the harm she caused.

Why give her a pass here?  We get a free pass to cheat if we cry enough about how burnt out we are?  What’s the moral line here, exactly, at which OP is responsible for her own actions?

No no, it’s ok,

See, she was feeling bad about life and unloved so she gets a pass to do whatever she wants.

The therapist held her down and forced her to be with him.  As a woman in distress, she is not capable of independent decision-making so can’t be held responsible for anything she does.

She is a victim and victims cannot do any wrong.

My wife also didn’t seek out a lunch meeting with her ex with intentions of having an affair.

Not conscious intention.

But there was subconscious intention because she never told me about it, and then kept in touch, turned him into a confidante with the exact same narrative as you and the rest is history.

You really should take accountability here

So is OP.

If it wasn’t this therapist, it would have been someone else

I mean, OP kissed back and never said no.

Let’s hold her accountable too