As the title suggests, I’m in a sexless marriage. I have two daughters (ironically, because people assume I must be having sex, but both times were when my wife got pregnant). I can’t leave the relationship because of my daughters. I’ve had countless conversations with my wife about my needs, but she refuses to listen. We might have sex once a year, and even then, it feels like it’s out of annoyance from me asking. Some have suggested (mostly women) that I might be asking too much. Trust me, I stopped asking a year ago, and still nothing.

My wife has said it’s due to my weight gain, but I’ve since lost 80 pounds, and yet, nothing has changed. I’m still on my weight loss journey, but at this point, my only motivation is that I feel better physically. Emotionally, I feel so helpless. I know I’m supposed to be the 'man' in the relationship and just 'man up,' but I have needs too. Don’t we all?