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I'm the leader of a group of guys in ours 20s, 30s & 40s who host gangbangs for women who want to do it in a safe environment. Ask me anything!
Good question. I've never really thought about that. We all really get off on pleasuring women, and I've never seen a woman in as much sexual ecstacy as when she is the centre of attention with a bunch of fit, well hung guys giving her attention in every way possible. The sight of her going insane with pleasure makes me incredibly horny.
I don't think any of the guys are in any way bi or gay, I've never got that vibe. Nobody has ever tried anything.
Logistically it works well too because the women can usually go for hours but we need a break, so teamwork makes the dream work!
Yeah, it works well. A lot of people outside this lifestyle would probably just assume we are a bunch of thirsty guys looking to get laid. Not entirely untrue, but we all genuinely care about these women, and we enjoy making sure they have an amazing time and leave happy. Their enjoyment is the central goal. They love being the centre of attention and we love them being the centre of our attention. Win win!
Usually we go for 1 or 2 hours. Sometimes she wants to stop for a break. I think it's fair to say that women who are into this lifestyle will have a much higher sex drive than the average woman.
We don't judge or kink shame our women 😅
I guess there's an element of honesty required
It usually takes a week or two. Sometimes longer.
People new to the lifestyle are always concerned about privacy, and rightly so, but the thing is that we all want to keep it private, so nobody leaks because they would get outed too. Normal society isn't ready to accept this type of thing so it's in all of our best interests to keep it quiet. We usually don't use our real names either (and I assume the women & couples we host don't either). None of us associate outside of the lifestyle.
Usually there is a no photos or filming rule. Some women/couples want to film, and that's ok, but we just say that our faces can't be in it.
Usually just one woman, and as many guys as she wants. Generally 4-8 guys. And yes I am Usually involved.
Some women specifically ask for natural, so in that situation obviously testing is critical for all parties
Rarely, or not that I know of. We don't pry. But the majority of women we have are married and their husbands are fully aware. Most of the time the husband is there and watches, or joins in.
I find most girls prefer above average, but most of them are more interested in how overall attractive the guys are - fit, well groomed, and good personality. We do occasionally get size queens who only want larger than a certain size.
Some women specifically want raw, but I wouldn't call it a "breeding party" as such. They just prefer the feeling of natural. So obviously STD screening is critical.
It's all about creating a safe and enjoyable environment. You gotta realise a situation where a woman is so vulnerable as her in a hotel room with a bunch of guys. So we need to make sure the men are all respectful and above board and have the right attitude
Our only age rule is older than 18. After that it just comes down to whether or not the guys are attracted to her. I think the oldest we have hosted was around 60. She was in incredible shape for her age and absolutely insatiable!
The girls always choose. I've had to sit a few out because I didn't get chosen, or because I was unavailable, or that I wasn't attracted to her. The hardest one to cop was a really cute 19yo who only wanted guys >40yo and I'm late 30s 😅
There's no need to recruit, there's never any shortage. We are regularly declining guys.
We will all chip in to pay for the hotel room, drinks, condoms etc.
Just chatting or having a drink mostly. Or washing up in between (hygiene is important). Usually 5 or 6 is the most number of guys that can actually be involved. That could just be touching her, stroking her leg, etc.
None to be honest, our screening process has proven to work very well.
What do those hotel rooms smell like by the end of it?
- Sex and a bit of body odour from an hour or two of sweaty action. Nothing terrible.
What's the craziest moment you can recall from one of your events?
- I think crazy is subjective. Most people would probably say every party of ours is crazy compared to their sex life... but I can't think of anything especially crazy.
How'd all this get started for you?
- I've been doing lifestyle stuff ever since I was late teens. This is just an era of that.
Is your group consistent between gangbangs? Aka you could very accurately describe your buddies' dicks because you've seen them a dozen times now?
- Not really, other than a few who have very large ones, I don't really notice.
Any MM moments happen at any of these? I have to imagine if you're in a regular rutting team, there have to be times when you're like "Oops, looks like Bill slipped out and it's a weird angle, lemme just tuck him back in there. You're good to go, Bill," with a slap on the ass.
- Haha, no that's never happened.
I'm not sure how to phrase this into a question, but respond I suppose: I cannot imagine being one of your stable of guys lol. Like literally, at any point you might get a ping on your phone from the bangchat with a photo of a woman who wants you and all your buddies inside her. And you get to be like "Aw, sorry Dave, I've got rugby that weekend. But if she really wants the double anal DP special from me and Chuck, see if she can bump it to the following Saturday."
- oddly enough, that's not too far off the tone of conversation
I'll have to come back to this later, sit tight
I guess like 6" & above or so. I don't get the ruler out at the parties though!
Last weekend was awesome. She was gorgeous, amazing body, and was extremely into it. Hot mom in her early 30s. Her hubby was a great guy. Whenever she didn't have anything in her mouth she had a huge smile on her face. That's the best in a while. Last year we had a gorgeous young Asian wife. She was stunning, petite, and also was into everything with lots of enthusiasm.
Most of us are accomplished professionals, we just do this for fun.
Find a group like ours and tick off that bucket list! YOLO. But yes, be safe!
I'm not actually going to send anyone pictures (so stop DMing me guys)
No, they have to be invited to join the group first, which requires some amount of vetting. Then they might not get invited to an event for months
We don't advertise as such. Usually a woman/couple will post on reddit looking for a group, or one of us will start chatting to them on an adult dating/swingers app and go from there. Some word of mouth.
No cost, just the hotel room which we all chip in for. There's never any shortage of guys who want to do this so no woman would ever need to pay for it.
I wouldn't say customer as such, as this is just a group of like minded people having fun. Guest, I suppose? We generally do it at a nice hotel and everyone chips in to cover the cost
We wouldn't be up for that, we're all straight. No major issues. We had a couple of guys who have gone a bit beyond the boundaries and were booted from the group. But that's it
I can send you pictures if you would like proof ;)
That's happened a few times, which is fine. Everyone has a type, and you're never going to be Everybody's type. We've had women who only want dadbods or only guys with smaller or average sized dicks, which is actually a problem for our groups because most of us are fit with above average sized dicks.
As a group we don't do only fans and stuff. We are wanting to keep a low profile. I have personally done some stuff with OF creators but not with this group.
Our group started life on fet too!
I think our oldest guy as 48 or so. It is a bit harder for older guys but if they are fit, handsome, and have good stamina and good in bed they should have a good chance
No, we don't video at all (unless the woman/couple say so, but usually they don't). We do allow them to film, as long as our faces aren't in anything
No money changes hands other than to cover the cost of the hotel room and supplies
Just got a little rough or not sharing
The inevitable embarrassment that they would feel by not being able to perform in front of everyone is probably self-selecting, and guys who wouldn't be up to the task just don't ask to join
That's never happened, fortunately. Although definitely some get a lot more interest than others. Mostly the women are above average attractiveness and 20-45yo so it's not normally a problem getting enough guys interested. Usually it's a case of culling the list
Of course, yes. Otherwise I'm pretty sure that would be rape!
Surprisingly its very easy, on reddit or swingers dating sites etc. Word of mouth
Yep, that's really at the core of this. It is all led by her and what she wants
I don't recall that ever happening to be honest. And we generally wear condoms.
Logistically more than 8 or 10 starts to get tricky if there's only one woman
Very common, yes. Almost every time
It would be difficult to keep a handle on the quality etc with a bigger group I think
We never stick around for breakfast ;)
Fit/muscular, nice smile, good personality. They usually see being well hung as a nice bonus but not a requirement
The rules would just be that full disclosure is given and then people can make their own decision on whether they want to participate. Personally, if wouldn't. I've never had an STI and would like to keep it that way!
We get women of all ages, races, shapes and sizes, but I'd say most commonly they are 25-45, attractive & in good shape. I'd say the "average" woman we entertain would be in her 30s, married with a kid or two, middle class suburban type.
We are on fetlife so we get some contact us there. But also couples & women will post on nsfw reddit subs in our area looking and then we will contact them. Also adult dating sites like POF & RHP etc. Word of mouth from people in the lifestyle... we are in Australia.
Yeah the guys will all have their preferences but most of the women we get are quite attractive so there's usually plenty of interest from the guys. It usually is the woman's preferences that dictate the guys, not the other way around
Yeah, usually about $500 a night or thereabouts for a 5 star hotel room and a few boxes of condoms and a bottle or two of nice champagne. Split amongst 5-10 people.
We just ask her before and/or during
The guest can film & take photos, and they often share ones back with the group (usually with faces or identifying features cropped or blurred)
Compersion is a strong one. Also voyeurism - it's like watching porn except you know the actress and she's also your favourite person in the world.
We don't charge anything, it's just for fun. Husband's often join in a little bit, but most of them spend most of the time just watching and/or filming.
We've had a couple of women who decides during pre-drinks that they just wanted to do some flirting in the bar and that was it, they weren't ready to go through it. We've never had any freak outs mid way. It is very common for first-timers to be super nervous to start with, but once we start, they get into it very quickly. We do everything we can to make them feel comfortable and safe which helps.
No we don't, but I have a feeling that gay men probably don't need to try too hard to organise one. The ones I know are all horny as fuck and down for just about anything!
Find local nsfw or r4r or swingers subreddits and just keep an eye out
No we don't want that. From our perspective we don't want there to be any ambiguity around consent, so if the woman/women are noticeably drug or alcohol affected that is very risky for us, not to mention risky for her. A few drinks to calm the nerves is the maximum. The odd line of cocaine or an ecstacy tablet is ok and not uncommon.
We've had everywhere from 19 to 60. The majority would be 25-45 I'd say.
Everyone is usually too busy for food!
Nobody pays other than splitting the cost of a hotel room. It's just for fun.
If that's what she wants, yes. It's not a common request though. Contrary to popular believe most women hate getting cum on their face
I've been into various aspects of the lifestyle since I was late teens, so kind of just evolved to this really
Please do! We're very friendly down here!
I've answered a few questions like this I detail if you want to have a read :‐)
Wherever she is ok with. We basically keep going for as long as she wants, most guys are able to go for round 2 after a break
It is 100% dependent on what the woman wants, but yes all of those things have/do happen from time to time
We don't really advertise, word of mouth and keeping an eye out on local subreddits and adult dating sites for women & couples looking...
No, never had that. Most of them are quite attractive
Haha yes that's a pretty basic prerequisite. The group of guys are all well put together types, so that sort of thing isn't something we need to be explicit about.
It's all done beforehand so not really
Be safe. Value your privacy. Only do things you want to do. Find trustworthy men.
I dunno man I've travelled to just about every continent and never had a problem. I'm not Brad Pitt neither.
Most of us are engineers, doctors, clinical nurses, builders etc. There's no way we'd be able to make a comparable living off this. I doubt any women would pay for this, because there's an infinite number of men who will fuck them for free.
Not that I know of. Definitely some get more interest than others though
No incentives other than I get to have a lot of fun
Haha, that's pretty much exactly how it goes. I do often wonder what people are thinking when they see us
We have a mixture, but mostly white/European
No it's not transactional in any way.
But sex work is not illegal where we are anyway.
Because their post history says they live in USA
The husband's are into it. I'm assuming their kids don't know. That would be a wierd conversation wouldn't it
I've always been somewhat attracted to them. No I have never taken any such pills
Absolutely not. They are almost all just normal middle class women. I'd say the typical woman we host is white or asian, middle class, in her 30s, attractive and in good shape, married with kids, either a housewife or a professional career. Just a woman hitting her sexual peak.
I'm sure some of the guys would be up for that but availability might be an issue
Occasionally, if she wants it that way. Usually they'll want to see everyone's test results and vice versa before we meet
Right, no we have all sorts of guys and girls involved
Youngest was I think 19, oldest around 60. Most are 25-45 ish.
Yes it's always her rules, with everything
We have a no violence policy so no severing
Its usually a large room in a 5 star hotel so plenty of room
Nothing particularly strange.
I had one who specifically wanted to leave all the blinds open in the hotel room, so people in surrounding buildings could watch (and they were).
Nothing particularly strange, though. Most people are more astonished by the fact that many of these women are happily married and their husband's are super into it
That's a fairly standard thing with most
I'd say it's roughly proportionate to general society. No particular pattern
There is no transactions whatsoever. It is only for fun
Sometimes yes. Sometimes they just watch.
I guess you could say it's an offshoot of swinging yeah. The guys are around the same age, mid 20s to late 40s. AFAIK we are all straight
It's not a business, it's just a lifestyle group I guess you'd say
No it's just a group of amateurs. We do this for fun
Single women or even multiple women, absolutely.
There's no transactional component to this, so no there are no legal issues. It's nothing at all like either of those things. It's consenting adults organising a fun party.
No we wouldn't do that, that's not our thing as we are all straight (as far as I know)
If you're fit, attractive, confident and can hold a conversation with a woman, finding a willing partner isn't too difficult.
Yeah that probably wouldn't be possible tbh. We don't have that many of one particular race
It's a hotel room usually, and its generally not that messy
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That's a given. And condoms are usually a must