You calling it a grudge made my skin crawl. Comments like this, in my opinion, come from perps. It’s actually how I have found some predators online. Something about pedos they can’t seem to stfu bc they love retraumatizing their victims and really all victims. So mo sweetheart no one thinks you must forgive and forget. But a therapist and healing is the answer. With the help of a professional who specializes in this type of trauma you can let go of the obstacles it causes, slowly and then you can accurately figure out what you do like. Right now all you know is what you don’t like and it’s terrifying. The fear it causes is what needs to subside. Trusting people is not going to get significantly easier. However you can learn to trust yourself. That will help you release some serious trauma and learn a bit more about who you really are. Not the version of you inflicted on you by cruel sick individuals. The version of you that doesn’t fear them. I know many victim turned warriors and they went through a lot to heal. Now they help others.

Have you been habitually abused by two men for years in your childhood? Bc if you have not you certainly will never understand. What surprises me is your complete lack of empathy and you don’t acknowledge her trauma. She isn’t afraid irrationally. Her experience was clearly different than yours. Can you wrap your mind around that?

I had someone almost kill me by choking me. When a guy went to choke me during sex I kicked him in the nuts and jumped up. Since then I have told all my partners that choking is a hard boundary.

Wtf are you talking about?