TLDR: my mom says i have no motivation to have a boyfriend if I can get emotional support from her, so I can’t talk to her until I have a boyfriend. I think I may be aromantic though.

My mom and I have had a pretty great relationship since I moved out at 18. I am not financially dependent on them so that helps, but right now my mom wants me to get a boyfriend and get married.

I talk to my parents most days. I know it’s a lot but we do get along well and I consider them to be my friends. And it can be nice to talk to them about my day.

I do have friends but most of them are guys since I went to a male dominated field in school and I’m working on making more female friends (the one close one I had moved recently ). So it is possible that I rely on my parents too much for emotional support. But I do love about 2000 miles from them so I almost never SEE them, we just talk.

Last week I noticed that my best friend is kinda seeming like he might be into me. Please know that I’m not the type to just assume. He was being quite obvious. And I was talking to my mom about how I can cool down that relationship so he doesn’t get the wrong idea. And my mom told me to just date him since I’ve never had a bf before. I think I may be aromantic anyways, but either way I’m just not interested in dating him at all.

My mom says that I am too dependent on her for things I’d need a boyfriend for so she thinks if I keep talking to her that I’ll never have motivation to date.

Maybe that’s true, but I’m really sad about it. And I miss her.