Need Advice

Good afternoon. My wife and I have been married for 12 years, together for 15. We have two kids (ages 5 and 7). We have been having intimacy issues for over a year now, and today we finally sat down and talked about it. During this discussion my wife told me that she has been attracted to women her whole life not men, and has been suppressing this for our entire marriage.

My wife told me that her “fix” for this is that we should both see people on the side, but stay married. I am repulsed by that notion, and could never do that even with my wife’s permission, for so many reasons - mainly because I love her way too much.

Guys I’m at a loss. My wife says she loves me and wants to stay married, but with this new arrangement. I honestly can’t imagine my life without her, but also cannot fathom living in a marriage where my wife has one foot in the door and one foot out. This is our first marriage each - and I assumed would be our only ones.

I’m sorry to bother you all with this but any advice or feedback that you would be willing to provide would be most appreciated.

Thank you guys.