Forgive me, this is long and I probably won’t make a lot of sense lol. I 48f) had a talk with my bf (58m) last night and I feel like a bitch. I love my guy. He treats me like a queen and I love that his grown daughters love him to pieces. They have a really loving relationship. Where I have a problem is that they don’t have any boundaries when it comes to staying at our house. We’ve been together almost 3 years and I moved into his home last year. I was just starting to feel like it’s my home too, this spring. Keep in mind that I am a very independent person as is he. This is new to me to have moved into someone else’s house. If we had moved into somewhere new together, I feel like it would be different. More like my own space instead of moving into his space and trying to feel at home. Anyway, my problem is that one of his daughters lives about 3 hours away. She likes to come with her baby to stay with us. I have no problem with that. We get along well and love having the baby around. I just don’t feel like she needs to stay for a month or the current stay of almost 6 weeks. I like my routines and having time to spend with my guy after work etc. doing things like going to the pub for dinner or going for a bike ride in the evenings. I like being able to relax in my home and not feel like I’m entertaining or having to worry about making noise for the baby. Like I said, I don’t mind for short visits. A week or so. A month into a 6 week visit is draining my patience. I snapped last night and said, “so is she living with us now or what’s happening?” He laughed and said no of course not. I instantly felt like an asshole and apologized for the way I said it. Then I told him that I felt like he needs to set a boundary. He doesn’t ever ask when she’s coming or for how long. I feel like this is important information, no? He is afraid of rocking any boats or hurting anyone’s feelings. I said that I miss us having our home and space. He said he can’t do that with her. I said “yea you definitely can.” And then he pretty much just shut down the conversation on his end. I said I needed my routines back and wanted to also do our own things without feeling like we can’t because she’s here. He said that doesn’t change anything on our lives and I reminded him that just last week, he almost didn’t come to a movie with my kids and I because she wouldn’t be able to go with the baby. So he was going to stay home with her. She encouraged him to go and so he did. All I want is for the visits to be shorter. She’s only 3 hrs away and could have come and gone 2 or 3 times by now. He won’t say anything. Am I the asshole? It’s making me want to move out but that’s drastic and I feel like the rest of our relationship is golden.