I (M19) have been seeing this woman (F36) for a few months now. She’s married with three kids: a 17-year-old son and 15-year-old twin daughters. It started out as a fling, but things got serious quickly. She told me she was in a rough patch with her husband, but I didn’t expect things to go as far as they did.

Recently, she found out she’s pregnant, and it’s mine. She’s pretty sure of that because her and her husband haven’t been intimate in a long time. Instead of coming clean to her husband, she’s decided that he’s just going to raise the baby as his own by sleeping with him for a month or two and claims its his , and she doesn’t plan on telling him the truth. She says he’ll just assume it’s his, and it’ll be easier for everyone this way.

Part of me feels guilty for being involved in this at all, but another part of me wonders if it’s my responsibility to say something. The idea of someone else raising my kid without knowing the truth doesn’t sit right with me, but if I come forward, I could blow up her whole family and cause chaos for her kids, who don’t deserve this.

I don’t know if I should let her handle things her way or if I should come clean to her husband. AITA for even considering telling him?