I (M45) My daughter (F21), has always been my pride and joy. I've worked hard to provide for her, but maybe I focused too much on my job and not enough on her.

A few months ago, she started dating this guy from a modest background. At first, I tried to keep an open mind, but soon I noticed he was controlling and manipulative. He isolated her from her friends, belittled her, and it seemed like he was only interested in her for our money. I was worried sick.

Despite my concerns, she stayed with him. Every time I tried to talk to her, she defended him, saying I didn’t understand. I felt desperate and frustrated. In a moment of anger and fear for her future, I gave her an ultimatum: leave him, or I’d cut her off financially.

She chose him. Heartbroken and frustrated, I stuck to my word and disowned her. I stopped all financial support and cut off contact, hoping she would see the truth about him and come back. But she moved in with him, and they struggled. I heard through mutual friends that he was treating her poorly, which tore me apart. I blamed myself, thinking if I had been more present, she wouldn’t have ended up with someone like him.

her mother passed away when she was just seven years old. I’ve always tried to be the best father to her, but maybe I failed her in some ways.

Months passed without us speaking, and I started to feel guilty about cutting her off. I missed her terribly and regretted the harshness of my decision.

So, AITA for disowning my daughter after she refused to leave her boyfriend?