I (35M) need some perspective. My ex-girlfriend (31F) and I broke up a few months ago, but she stayed at my place until the beginning of January. She was paying half the rent while she lived here(except for December becauseshe needed to save money to buy things for her new place), and I wanted to give her time to figure things out and move on.

Her life was a bit of a mess—she was struggling with work, keeping up with responsibilities, and staying organized. I really cared about her, so I did the things she said she couldn't. She had medical issues(I found out at the end some of them were exaggerated, from her) I cleaned our house, handled other bills, and took care of her three cats. I thought I was being supportive, but she got upset and accused me of being controlling, saying I made her feel like she couldn’t do anything on her own.

She moved out on January 1st, but we’re still not on great terms. A few friends have said I should’ve let her handle her own problems, but I genuinely thought I was helping her get back on her feet. Now I’m wondering if I overstepped.

AITA for trying to help her, or should I have backed off and let her handle things on her own?