Currently I live in California and my sister lives in Utah. Every few months i have a responsibility that requires me to drive to Utah. When this happens i tell my sister when I'll be there, where I'll be, and she always acts excited to see me. I have a super tight schedule on these trips- i have a 24 hour window to get the car back and i have to go 9 hours one way, so it's an 18 hour trek plus the time to take care of the actual responsibility.

Then the last two days before the drives comes, she asks where I'll be and its an hour away from where she lives so she decides she's not going to make the drive because it's "too far" and asks me to come closer to where she lives. I cannot do that because my abusers live there and i dont want to put myself through that turmoil anymore. One of her other reasons was because her "boyfriend is worried about her being alone that far and late". (It's utah @ 9pm bfr)

She's never driven far from home alone so i understand that first roadtrip can be scary (i literally got into a horrible car accident and almost died on my first one, i get it) so her reasons are valid. I haven't seen her in two years and my mom (who i havent seen in three years) also isnt willing to make the drive to visit me. AITA for not driving an extra hour to see them?