Hello, this is my degenerate sex and horny account. For context, my phrase lite catfishing is that this individual lied about their name and photo details to explore their own sexuality, but aren't malicious about it. For their protection and mine, I will not share their real information. Ever. Here's the issue at hand:

I created a post recently for a sexting partner for a role-playing scenario, and I think I was pretty specific in looking for a female to get my rocks on. The post went well enough. I got a lot of pings, and there were some interesting people. But one person stood out to me.

She immediately said she was interested in the role play idea. She almost immediately showed photos of her self, or so I thought. She was really beautiful and I was just happy to have an interested woman to sext with. She introduced herself as Steph.

I foolishly began sending my own photos and my name. I'm disparaging myself right now because I was being very honest with my photos. Thankfully I didn't send my face. Mostly because she didn't want to either.

We had a lot of fun for a few days. She would share more photos of herself, and I would share mine. We would tell each other sexy stories. Eventually I asked her if she wanted to voice chat. There were some signs that the pictures she was sending were faked. Duplicates. Different poses in different places. Steph said she wasn't comfortable with that. --which is understandable. She had a great reason. She just wasn't comfortable with sharing her voice online. Okay. No problem. But I had an inkling something wasn't right.

Later, she sent me a photo of her face.

I was flabbergasted. She was beautiful, and I wanted to show my face too. But I had to ask her one favor. Can she please send me a photo of her with my name on it?

Almost as soon as I sent this request, they caved. They revealed that she's actually a non binary person and that they meant to tell me about it. But that our adventures prevented it. That they use Steph as an alias to explore their sexuality and that they were sorry for lying to me.

I wasn't happy. I was lied to, and I took Steph's persona hook line and sinker. I told them as much. I told them I was looking for a female to play with and get to know. They didn't tell me their other name, but that they were sorry and understood if I didn't want to talk with them again. I waited to take some time to think on it, and I gave it a few days.

So I know they lied to me, and I thank the stars that this person didn't have ill intent. I know they genuinely liked their time with me, and it's true that I had my fun with them too. I've been caught by scammers before. --Because sometimes I'm just a stupid guy. I just honestly despise liars. And Steph lied to me.

Well, Steph messaged me back today. She gave me an ear full. Said she was pissed. That she was female after all, and that I don't know the struggle of her sexuality. That she has to lie about it without getting judgement from others. People have called her mentally ill and other names I think. That I don't understand her issues, and that I'm acting like she committed a war crime.

I ended it after letting her know that I wish her the best, and that I didn't think she was mentally ill. I let her know that it may be better not to manipulate others. Because I certainly felt manipulated.

I think she's right in that I don't know the struggle she actually goes through. For example, I researched non binary and I thought it meant that there were no genders identified with NB people. But she claims she is female. And she later claimed that her name is actually Steph. It's this sort of mental gymnastics that is why I honestly prefer to identify people as male and female (though I certainly respect people that ID otherwise, you do you). I just prefer to follow the KISS principal and not let sexuality bother me.

Right. So, I am still majorly confused. There's no saving the relationship though. It's gotten ugly and I've lost patience with it. She said that many people lie online. I know it. I just can't trust this person. I don't know if they are who they say they are. From my perspective, they could be male pretending to be female. While that's okay, it's not something I am into. We really liked our chats together but I can't bring myself to pretend with them anymore due to this fiasco.

I have to know though. Am I the asshole?