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AITAH for refusing to babysit my niece after my brother called me a bad mom?
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I (31F) have a 5-year-old daughter, and Iā€™m a single mom. My brother (33M) and his wife have a 3-year-old daughter. Weā€™ve always had an okay relationship, but things got weird recently.

A couple of weeks ago, my brother made a snide comment at a family dinner about how I let my daughter watch too much TV and eat ā€œjunk food.ā€ He said it was ā€œsadā€ that I wasnā€™t trying harder to be a good mom. I let it slide at the time, but I was hurt.

Fast forward to this week, my brother calls me asking if I can babysit his daughter for a few days because he and his wife have an emergency trip they need to take. I said no. I didnā€™t give an excuseā€”I just said I wasnā€™t available. He flipped out, saying I was being selfish and holding a grudge, and that Iā€™m punishing an innocent child.

Our parents are now involved, and they think I shouldā€™ve helped out, but I feel like if Iā€™m such a ā€œbad mom,ā€ then maybe Iā€™m not the right person to watch his kid.

AITAH?

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True. Let your parents step up and take care of their grandchild if they have so many opinions. Also, since your brother thinks youā€™re such a ā€œbad mom,ā€ he should stop expecting you to offer your free help. Make it clear to him that if he continues making hurtful comments, itā€™ll lead to you cutting off contact and damaging an already fragile relationship. NTA

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