I’ve been traveling to Thailand for over 15 years and even spent 4 years living there so suffice to say I have a deep seeded love and adoration for the country. I could write pages of reason why but suffice to say I love the pace of life, the food, the people, the weather and the reasonable cost of living. I feel like I am my best self whenever I am there.

Currently I’ve been living in New York City for almost a decade and feel the total opposite about the place. I detest the cold weather as I suffer for SAD and barely get by financially despite having a decent paying job which I hate. Add in the fact that I got divorced two years and am at the point of life where most of my friends have moved out of the city or settled down with kids leaving me with little to no social life.

Recently I have been presented with the opportunity to move back to Thailand and I couldn’t be more excited with the proposition.

However, there is the issue with my mother and brother. My father passed away a little over a year ago and my mother is struggling with both depression and the upkeep of the house without him. Many tasks my father did now fall upon my brother who lives closer to her than I do. My brother, who is also unhappy with his current living situation, also has aspirations to move away albeit only a 3 hour plane ride away but has said repeatedly he “won’t leave mom”.

AITAH for pursuing my dream and leaving this responsibility to my brother? Furthermore, I know my move will hurt my mom as she will view this as “losing” me while also dealing with the loss of my father.