So there's basically three scenarios that I need to define. The first one she was going to a guy I knows house to take him things but there was another guy there who would tell her she's beautiful, she has gorgeous eyes, all the way up to "I'd eat your pussy for a cigarette" and then she said I'll just give you one and gave him a cigarette. She told me about the first incident so I would ask her if he was there when she came back. She always told me no. Turns out she'd give him rides back to work from lunch alone. Set with him in our car in front of a gas station. She was seemingly bragging about him hitting on her to me and when she told me and the cigarette thing I'd heard enough because she was telling me she'd lied to me about him being there all those times and then this? Anyway I went over there and he just ran away like a coward when he saw me. I talked to the guy who owns the house and told him what was going on and neither me nor her have seen him since. So was also telling me that she wanted it to stop (but didn't tell me or homeowner about it) but didn't know how.

A few weeks later we had an argument around 10pm and she drove off. She went to a gas station and fell asleep. A guy woke her up and asked if she wanted to go to his house and smoke at 4am. She agreed and followed his bicycle. She got there they smoked the guy had a girifriend there, there was another girl and a guy in the back of the apartment. The girls left my wife fell asleep and said she woke up to him trying to get her pants off. She says she pushed him away and then fell back asleep. She then awoke to one pant leg off she said she pushed him away and fell asleep. She then woke up to him trying to penetrate her pushed him said no and fell asleep. My wife is a deep sleeper but I find that to be absurd. I was leaning toward date rape drug but she waited 2 days to tell me what happened and she has yet to file charges. It's been over a month.

Last one we got into another argument and I drove off and left her at Dollar general. She got a ride to her home and called me. Anyway turns out it was a guy she lied at first said girl then she told me that she got his number off a friend phone she called and has been texting him.

Btw she changed her story multiple times sometimes outright denying anything then it trickles out into the stories I told you here.

I've been with this woman for 16 years. 14 were great best years of I life but this last 2 have been betrayal after betrayal followed by some I'm sorries. So is that cheating? Is my marriage over? Any ideas why this might start happening?