So, I’m 21F and went on a first date last week with a guy I matched with on Hinge. Let’s call him Jake, 25M. We’d been chatting for a few weeks, and he seemed like a solid guy—funny, good taste in music, and even remembered I loved Italian food. He planned the date at this nice little spot in Dallas, which I thought was sweet.

I show up, and everything’s fine at first. He’s already there, we hug, and he even complimented my outfit. But like five minutes after I sit down, this older woman walks in. Jake stands up, waves her over, and says, “This is my mom!”

I thought I misheard him for a second.

She sits down at the table, all casual, and starts introducing herself to me like this is normal. Meanwhile, I’m sitting there, trying to figure out if I’m being pranked. I kind of laugh nervously and say, “Oh, I didn’t know you were bringing anyone,” and he goes, “Oh, she just wanted to meet you. Don’t worry—it’s not a big deal.”

But it was a big deal because she didn’t just stop by to say hi—she ordered wine and stayed. The whole time, she’s asking me these personal questions about my job, my family, even if I want kids someday. It was like an interview, not a date. Jake barely said anything. He just smiled and kept nodding like this was all normal.

After about 20 minutes of this, I couldn’t take it anymore. I said I wasn’t feeling great and needed to leave. I texted him later, saying I didn’t think it would work out and wished him well.

Now I feel kinda bad. My roommate says I did the right thing because honestly, who brings their mom to a first date? But my coworker said it was rude to just leave and that maybe his mom was just super close to him or nervous for him or whatever.

Was I wrong for walking out?