I, F(29), and my ex-husband/fiance, M37, were together for 8 years. To put things into perspective, my marriage to my ex-husband/fiance-let's call him "Bryan"-ended two years ago. It was because of his mother; let's call her "Susan." It wasn't a messy divorce, but it definitely had its fair share of challenges-mostly brought on by the situation and the way Susan handled it.

For us, infertility was a big problem; since the beginning of our relationship, it was an argument so painful. I did wish for some form of support from my surroundings-most especially from family. Susan did the opposite. Since the first day, Susan appeared more interested in accusing me than in supporting her son. One of the most degrading moments was at a family gathering when Susan thought it appropriate to stand up in front of the whole family and say, "Some people just aren't cut out for motherhood," which made me feel like this was some kind of personal failing on my part. I was absolutely mortified. It didn't stop there; she continued to privately discuss my issues with several of my relatives which I received judgement that I never needed or deserved, and it left me isolated and vulnerable. I decided not to invite her to our wedding and roll around to when the guest list was finalized, I did not put her on it, and it led to a big argument between us. In the end it was my decision to not invite her to our wedding and Bryan went with it.

Susan's behavior escalated to the point where, in one of the last conversations we would have before Bryan and I decided to part ways, she outright told him he deserved "better" than me. She said this in front of me, as if I wasn't even there. The sheer immaturity in the comments and blatant disrespect for our relationship left me in tears for a week. It also made very clear that she saw me as nothing other than a failed phase in her son's life.

It was a mutual decision between Bryan and me to part ways, but at that very moment, I knew exactly how deep the impact of Susan's words had been for both of us. I was to start a new life, free from that toxic influence. Fast forward to today: I'm happy single and focused on myself more than ever.

More recently, though, Bryan has texted looking to reunite, and I'm at a loss as to what to do. I don't want Susan meddling given the way she treated me while I was with Bryan and the way she manipulated situations publicly to demean my value. I mainly believe she is to blame for our failed relationship. Help redditors please! I honestly don't know what to do. Moreso AITA?

Edit: I call him ex fiance, because we were engaged for 4ish years and married less than a month. I am not married I am single which I stated. This post was for advice on if I should contact him back. He never really stood up for me except for defending his mother for talking bad about my infertility. I was also doubting whether or not I was the asshole for not inviting her to our wedding. I didn’t want to write another post for AITA for not texting my ex back because of his toxic mother and it all be the same thing basically.