It is hard to summarize everything, but I (24m) and my fiancé (24f) are getting married in December. We have been engaged since June and before I ever proposed to her I informed her family and mine that it would be a quick engagement. We cannot wait and we are eagerly looking forward to our wedding day. I am taking care of the honeymoon all by myself, which is okay. I am a travel nurse so I make good money, but we are also trying to buy a house and just start our lives together.

During the whole process my family has acted like my wedding is an inconvenience. My fiancé is 4 hours from where my family lives. She has grandparents that are unable to travel long distances due to age and health. Most of her family is also local to the area as well. My family consists of my mom, older brother, older sister, younger brother, and younger sister. They are all well and able to travel. Whenever we were looking for a venue the only thing my mom was worried about was the fact that it was not local to her, but to my fiancé. Additionally, when choosing the date my mother has brought up how it was not ideal for school schedules, work schedules, and etc. Rather than the mentality of “it’s a wedding and it’s something to remember forever”.

My fiancé and her family are taking care of the wedding. She has been working hard to ensure that our day is special. During the whole process my family has been worried about themselves than me or my fiancé.Example: My sisters being bridesmaids haven’t even asked to see my fiancés wedding dress and acted like they could care less whenever she got the dress, but wanted to get upset whenever the maid of honor ordered a dress that one of them wanted before they did. They have not offered to help with anything at all, but complain or make it about them in every area. Example: My older brother (29m) is a nurse practitioner and he had told me was planning on giving to the honeymoon, but when I was getting everything planned and paying for everything I had asked him how much he was intending to give because I was budgeting it all out as it’s valid information to have and has to be done beforehand. He got mad and told me he doesn’t even want to help anymore.. he won’t even respond to my texts or calls and he’s the Best Man.

I’m just disappointed in my family because they want to have a say in EVERYTHING but yet have not offered help while my finances parents are picking up working overtime to do the most they can. I can keep going, but it is to the point where others are being more supportive to her and myself than my own family. It’s making me want to not involve them in the wedding and have no part with them.