Yesterday, my girlfriend mentioned she was planning to have a sleepover at her friend's house. I had already caught wind of this two weeks ago when I overheard her friend discussing it. However, before she told me about the sleepover, we had a bit of a disagreement. During that conversation, she was scrolling through my Instagram followers and took screenshots of four different girls’ profiles, sending them to me. When I asked if she was uncomfortable with me following them, she admitted that she was. Without her having to ask, I promptly unfollowed those girls.

She then brought up that she wished I would share my location with her, which I did to ease her worries. Things seemed to be going well until she received a call from her friend asking about her arrival time. She explained she needed to drop off her 6-year-old son at his dad's before heading over. I shared my concerns with her about the sleepover, expressing that it bothered me she was going, especially knowing how I felt about it. She responded by saying that her friend had been her best friend for over 20 years. I countered by saying that if her friend truly cared about her, she wouldn’t encourage her to do something that could lead to conflict in our relationship. I also pointed out that, at 29 with a young child, it felt a bit irresponsible to be having a sleepover. Despite my feelings, she insisted she was going to go regardless and that I shouldn't feel that way. I reminded her that when she expressed discomfort about me following those girls or not sharing my location, I didn’t question her feelings—I just wanted her to know that I loved her and wanted her to be happy. And that I had already made compromises by unfollowing the girls and sharing my location, but when I expressed my discomfort about her leaving their son to go to this sleepover, she still chose to go. So, am I in the wrong for being upset about her decision to sleep over?