So, I have been raised by my dad and his parents. Know birth mothers name that’s it. Side issue I don’t care anyways.

One of the biggest problems is dad’s mother (mum) isn’t good for my mental health. Even an employer of mine has identified this

I’m 35 and 7/9 months of a high risk pregnancy and have an 8 y.o with Autism. He’s verbal. In second grade. Has NDIS. Divorced from his very narcissistic father.

Am I TAH because she hates my fiancé. Never respects boundaries (why are you doing this/I raised you/ your always defensive etc).

It lasts maybe a week. History repeats.

I should add I’m currently voluntarily in a mental health ward. For something else but this is a big part of the journey here.

I’ve outplayed what I want, short and long term. Why it’s important to me. But…how the heck do I stop myself letting things go to ‘keep the peace’ because that’s my nature.

My fiancé has visited every day and he says it’s all gotta be my choice or it’s mute. I’ve had the initial phone call and damn it was painful but I kept going no this I was where talking about etc… so loud the nurses got worried. But also she’s part deaf and almost 80…

Doing likewise to my dad is easier as we chat rarely n it’s wheats kinda been like that. Reducing that is no effort.

I’ve instructed facility no incoming landline calls. I only reply to texts if I want to. Calls mostly answer. But hang up if it goes sour.

Any suggestions besides good friends, sleep, not swearing and being aware my 8 y.o should continue his relationship as she is his grandmother and very supportive of him and the autism journey.

Thanks for reading