Context of the situation. I’m moving into a new rental house in a few weeks. I had been talking with my parents the last couple of days who live a state over, making a plan to come get my couch they had been storing, a desk and mattress they had found for me.

My mom called me a few hours ago and said that there’s probably gonna have to be a change of plans because the desk and mattress they had fell through, and to just move my couch would cost like 350$ plus gas (we would have to get a UHaul since none of us have a truck or something bigger to transport). I told her I understand and that we will just work to find a couch or something here. She pressed me a bit asking why I sounded frustrated, and I told her that we passed on a couch previously since we had mine, and I also really love my couch and was hoping to get it, so I’m frustrated at the situation, but not at her. She told me I don’t really have a right to be frustrated considering all that her and my dad are currently helping with, and trying to help with.

I explained to her I believe I have every right to feel frustrated about this situation, and I shouldn’t have to feel like I can’t be frustrated just because she feels like I’m frustrated at her, when I have explicitly told her I’m not. At this point, I had suggested it might be best if we hop off the phone because with the way I sensed the conversation was heading, I did not want to ultimately end up being upset at her for totally unrelated reasons. She told me that by being frustrated at the situation, which she is creating, I am in turn frustrated at her. I told her again that wasn’t the case, and that she is spinning it to be frustration towards her, when I do not have any. Again I told her we should probably get off the phone. She then said I am calling her a manipulative person by saying that’s the “narrative she is trying to spin,” and at that moment while she was still talking I responded with “I did not say that, that’s not fair, I am starting to get upset at you now and don’t want that. I am going to hang up the phone, I love you, goodbye,” and ended the call.

She texts me immediately following, saying “Don’t ever hang up on me again, especially for all I’ve done for you.” We had a brief text exchange back and forth, where I told her I was just trying to prevent a fight, and I’m sorry that’s the outcome, and she told me “Too late.”

AITAH? Should I have handled it differently? Just wanted some completely unbiased opinions on the situation, whether I’m the AH or not.