My husband (29) and I (25) have been together for 5 years. As of recently, our relationship has been quite rocky, not for any particular reason, it just seems that way from my POV.

I ended up putting our son to sleep a little bit later than usual (9PM) and left him to play his video game while I read my book and took a shower.

Around 1AM or so, he still wasn’t in the bed, so I went to use the restroom and ask if he was going to be coming to bed soon. When I walked into the living room, he had his phone open, while playing the game, and I looked down at it and he got all frantic and locked his phone. I don’t know the password to his phone, so it would’ve been pointless to try to grab it.

By that point, I knew something was up. I asked, “What’s on there? Who are you talking to?” He didn’t respond. I asked again, and again, until he said, “Just some video.” “What kind of video,” I responded. He didn’t say anything. Then I asked, “Porn?” and he said, “Yes.”

At that point, I was extremely disheartened. Not only because we haven’t had sex in weeks but also because I was in the other room and would’ve loved for him to initiate something with me, a human body.

I asked, “So are you talking to these people?” The only reason I asked is because I saw a chat open when I glanced down at the phone. Again, he didn’t respond.

I took the hint.

I asked to see what he was watching, and he refused to unlock his phone or to let me see, so I could have some sort of closure.

I’ve never really had an issue with porn, but hiding it, lying to me about it (earlier in our relationship), and not having sex for weeks, is what is really bother me, and not to mention our son asleep in the other room.

I ended up walking away from him, and concluded the conversation.

He ended up sleeping on the couch, and left for work without saying goodbye. I didn’t even make a whole big fuss about this, and handle the situation accordingly.

I’m just trying to understand.