My wife and I are going through a separation. Throughout this, and the months leading up to it, we have both been speaking to mutual friends about our respective issues, trusting them to give unbiased and honest advice and opinions.

Two of these friends in particular I have known for a very long time, and have been like brothers to me. One of them I met in high school. He knew me and my wife back then, but was very good friends with me and never really got along with her until after her and I got together years later and ended up getting married. The other friend knew me for a couple of years before her and I got together, and only met her because we started dating.

Flash forward to today. Both of these friends were very encouraging to me during this whole ordeal. Telling me not to give up, that I could fix the issues she has with me, and that I could do better and save our marriage like I wanted to. They also told me I needed to move past the dishonest and unfaithful things she has done that hurt me, and discuss my issues with her.

However, I also found out that these same friends were telling her something totally different. They were telling her that she should leave me. They told her if she was so unhappy, she should end things. Told her I couldn't change the problems she had with me, and that she deserves better.

I feel extremely betrayed, and very lied to. I feel like they were just telling me what I wanted to hear, and stabbing me int he back the whole time when I wasn't around. So AITAH for being angry with them? And WIBTAH if I decide they weren't actually true friends, and choose to cut them out of my life and never look back?