Hi all,

I'm struggling with a situation in my marriage and I need some outside perspective. My husband and I have two kids, and as you can imagine, life gets pretty hectic. I find myself needing some alone time to decompress and have a moment to myself. However, my husband often gets upset when I ask him to give me this time.

He thinks my decompression happens when I take a shower, go on a grocery run, or do other errands, but I don't feel that these should be my only forms of relaxation. Meanwhile, he spends a significant amount of time playing video games. I understand that everyone needs a hobby and a way to unwind, but it feels like video games take precedence over spending time together as a family or helping out with the kids. Whenever I ask him to not play games and instead spend time with us, it often leads to arguments.

I’m feeling overwhelmed and frustrated. Am I the asshole for expecting my husband to help out more with the kids and spend time as a family instead of playing video games? Am I wrong for wanting some alone time without the kids to decompress?

Thanks in advance for your thoughts!

Edited for amount of kids