Some context, I've been dating my current gf for over 5 years, but in the last year she has brought lots of things up that have been take it or break up type situations. I love her but I don't know what to do. I'm huge on physical affection which in the first 4 years she was as well but in the last year she been getting upset when I touch her in certain ways and when I try to get her affection randomly, not that long ago she came to me with her own "epiphany" that she is 'ace poly' and she was confessed to by one of her weirder discord friends she met on a fnaf oc type discord, and it was either accept her being poly or break up, which I do love her but I'm also her dad's only ride incase of his issues acting up where he could actually die and I live with them, and kinda can't afford an apartment of my own, so I was kinda stuck being poly when I really didn't want to, I try to be loving and touchy with her here and there and she snaps at me more often than not or says she not in the mood, which is fine, I understand it. But every time I try to take her on a date, "I'm not in the mood/it's game night/ I have plans with (other)/can we bring (roommate)?" Which really gets annoying so I stop trying to take her out, then she complains. I snapped at her when she asked why I don't do more cleaning when I finished working an 80 hour work week and I clean after her in our office every day and take trash out and clean dishes. I work in a labor heavy field of work fwi, So I'm tired often. And I try and be nice and supportive as she tried running a small business for 3 years and I supported her financial for the entire thing even for buying her products to sell, and I don't feel valued at any point, she blows me off most the time and rarely actually want to hang out, and even rarer to get any bed time fun, I get it maybe once-twice a month to every other month. I try my best to keep her happy and not let out how shitty I feel but at this point I'm starting to give up on hiding my opinions. What should I do? I talked to her about couples therapy and she doesn't want to, I tried making a chart and list to some effect what helped my buddy but nothing she wants to do... I feel like I'm running out of options.