I have been with my partner for a year so I know a fair amount about her and her spending habits. I just treated her out for her birthday on Friday, I paid for it. This last week she asked to borrow $100 to pay for something towards her car, which I did. She will be with her parents most of Easter and with a previous co-worker that's her friend in the evening and some of Monday (me and my partner are open and she isn't attracted to this friend). She is wanting to go to a reasonably priced upscale restaurant (main dishes $30-80), but AITAH for telling her to reconsider going to this place? She is offering to go here, knowing her friend might not like going to a place like like this or he might be heavily underdressed (it is upscale). If she goes here and brings up she is struggling to pay rent or whatever it is (she has an appointment for her car on Monday), do I bring up the fact that she went to someplace upscale and she's worried about paying rent? Another thing, am I wrong to assume going somewhere like this is mostly for dates? Or am I overthinking things?