(This likely isn’t the right sub)

My wife and I have two toddlers, and 4 sets of close friends that have kids around that age. Often when we hangout they would invite their parents or relatives when we go to their house, or we may even go to their parents houses to hangout.

Their parents are all interesting and cool people. We always get along, have engaging conversations, they like us and we like them. We certainly always have a good time. I have nothing against any of them explicitly.

That said, I have zero desire to spend time with them. When I want to spend time with our friends, I want to spend time with our friends. It’s nothing against them.

We have recently started declining invitations if we knew relatives would be there. For example we were invited on a short little vacation, but lo and behold, parents will be there so I declined. We want to go for sure.

My wife doesn’t care, and thinks I’m being rude or weird. I somewhat agree, which is why we haven’t told any of our friends why we have declined. I am an extremely extroverted person who makes friends with most people I meet, so I do feel some inner disconnect with these feelings.

And before anyone says it, I know I have every right to think and feel however I want, but I mean is it wrong in the general sense.

Edit: since I know people will comment about my comment history, none of these friends are from the swinging community.