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This is an old throwaway account that Reddit won't let me delete.

I'm a teenager (uncomfortable sharing my age). My parents have been married for 20 years, but there's definitely been a lot of tension between them lately, mainly because of my mom and her choices.

Last week, I woke up at about 4 AM to my mom just screaming at my dad. I don't remember everything she said, but I remember she said things like "You're so mean to me, you ignore me, you don't love me". My dad didn't yell back.

I learned later that day after I came home from school that the argument happened because my dad was snoring. Everyone was sober. I can't make this shit up.

I was really hurt by what happened that morning, because I know my dad loves my mom to bits and pieces and would do anything to protect her. My mom, on the other hand, ignores my dad when she comes home from work (I've seen her greet the dog and walk right past him without even saying hello), she's stayed out with her friends until two in the morning, and sometimes she's come home completely hammered.

I vented to my dad about it, and he told my mom that I knew what had happened. She tried to apologize for waking me up, and that she'd just woken up grumpy, and she hugged me. I snapped at her, pushed her away and started screaming at her about how what she said was the most hypocritical stuff I'd ever heard in my life. My dad quickly jumped in and tried to get me to calm down.

My mom didn't apologize about it. She didn't even say anything. She stood there and looked fucking amused by the whole situation.

I feel horrible about yelling at her, and it's gotten to the point now where I hardly want to talk to her. She seems to have completely moved past it already, and I'm seriously beginning to doubt she took anything I said seriously.

AITAH?

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Edit to clarify some things:

1. Yes, my mom does go out a LOT. She usually goes out about once a week. This doesn't mean she drinks at home. She doesn't drink at home unless she's with her friends.
2. My dad was raised in an abusive household, both physically and verbally. He's also had some girlfriends that have taken complete advantage of him in the past. He's always been a softie, and he doesn't work so he can stay home for me and my brother. The last thing he would ever do is cheat on my mom. He's a firm believer in staying with the one you love, and he's made this very clear in the past.
3. I understand it wasn't my place to yell at my mom. I was angry at her, especially because the incident had just happened that morning and I was not only extremely tired, but it was still fresh in my mind. I understand that I'm just a teenager and that I shouldn't treat my mom this way, but I'm also tired of her constant bullshit.
4. To put into perspective some of the things my mom does, she also has a friend we'll call M. She stopped hanging out with M because M was being a piece of shit to her (IIRC, even threatening her). Last year they started hanging out again. She stayed over for about two days once. During that time, M made some incredibly sexual remarks regarding me and her own daughter. At one point, M gently slapped my ass and tried to lay down with me. Of course, M was drunk, but it still made me extremely uncomfortable, and I made this clear to my mom after M and her family had left. There were a lot of other horrible/disgusting things M did while she was at my house, even slapping my dad for a reason I've forgotten by now, but my mom still kept hanging out with M. The only reason she doesn't anymore is because my dad doesn't let her, for reasons you can probably figure out.

Thank you for all the input. I've definitely taken some things away from this, and I'll keep them in mind.