History over 12 months-

-Dec 17th 2022 - Met her in parking lot crying with a flat tire and little baby stuck in cold of December - She had all bald and mismatched tires and no extra money as she was a single mom. I Took her and baby to a restaurant and had her order food while I changed her flat using my spare then we drove to get her 4 new tires. I got an earful of her struggles and goals and decided to help her.

- I helped her with 200 Cash per week for bills, rent, food etc and said if she makes an effort to save where she can by end of a year she should have a comfortable amount of just in case money.

- 2 months later She lost her job at Target for calling off due to baby being sick alot.

- I reached out to a friend and got her a good job 40k /yr with full insurance.

- 5 months later she needs money for car repairs. Ok

- 6 months later the baby daddy asks her to stay a month before he leaves for a job in California. Not to see his child or her or for any other reason but to stay free to save money to travel and get a place in Cali. OK that's fine.

- 7 months later he didn't get a start date and has to wait couple weeks more. OK

- 8 months later her baby daddy is causing drama and problems with her at work so my good friend who is very compassionate and understanding alerts me and thinks she is using drugs???

- 9 months later and she is making an argument to let him stay with her and his child cause the California thing never happened and yet he never applied anywhere else over the last 2 months. Ok whatever she thinks is best for her and the baby.

- 10 months later and he wrecks her car by drinking and driving. I sit down with her and go over her finances and bank statement only to find every dollar she was to be saving was gone and she made excuses for the baby daddy needing it to get out of trouble. Ok, I cautioned her against letting her be taken advantage of and used. Talked with my buddy and he agreed she could use his parts pickup but only to and from work M-F. He also offered to pay her to clean the office and shop for extra Cash.

- 11 months later and she is now fired for driving the vehicle outside agreed hours and days and multiple days of being late 30 mins plus. You guessed it, she made excuses that Involved the baby daddy, drama, threats and making her late with childish games and verbal abusive comments.

- Dec 23 2023 - I had to tell her that I can no longer offer support and that I wish her the best.

Of course she freaked out and said I am a Complete selfish Asshole. OK

AITAH?