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AITA For answering a friend's question truthfully and losing idk how many friends because of it.
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My (19M) friend and I were talking about religion and having a really healthy and fun discussion between ourselves about how we differ. They're Jewish and I'm Christian. They asked me "Can a Christian practice Witchcraft?" And I said that the Bible very clearly states that witchcraft is a sin, and if someone that actively practices witchcraft shouldn't say they're Christian. I made absolutely certain to make sure that I had no problem with people that did witchcraft, them practicing tarot themselves and them giving me a reading. And we even ended the hang out with us saying to eachother we enjoyed the conversation and would love to have another one like it one day.

A few days later me and a friend group, including the friend I had the discussion with, were playing D&D. I noticed a few of the friends in the group were being weird to me, dissuading discussion and overall being low energy when we talked. I asked one if they were feeling okay and they said yeah, they were just tired. I didn't think much of it and after session went back to my dorm and just relaxed.

Later that night I got a message from the friend I asked if they were okay saying "you act like you know more about me than i do. you're too eager to touch me and my things and ive expressed that i dont like that. you want to be alone with me too much and it makes me feel uneasy. moreover, you're intolerant of people who practice paganism and witchcraft, and i think it's inappropriate for you to tell someone that their religion is wrong just because you're a christian and it doesn't align with your personal beliefs. i don't feel like i can have insightful conversations with you. you're also just generally too childish for me, and i don't tend to get along with people like that."

This came out of absolutely nowhere. We were on very very good terms before that day. I am a very touch person, it's my love language, but I always ask if me being touchy (hugging and punching and poking in the shoulder and stuff) makes someone uncomfortable. This friend in particular had said they were okay with it in the past. I am rather childish and most of the things aside from the witchcraft and paganism thing were one time deals. Me wanting to show them a new song I had learned on piano for the being alone thing, and I talked about why I thought they liked certain things and not other things one time not at all seeing any reason to think it was uncomfortable for them.

I still hadn't seen what the root of the problem was at this point. And nothing really made a ton of sense. I said "Okay I understand, I've never been intolerant of people that practice other religions! But I completely understand your other reasons and I will leave you be. I apologize for what I did, it's something I don't think about but I'll work on it and I completely 100% understand why me doing something like that would make you uncomfortable. Again thank you for being my friend while it lasted, and I hope you have a great night!"

They then told me that telling someone that practices other religions that they're wrong is intolerant. (Paraphrased for time and space sorry)

I said I have never said anyone's religion is "wrong" completely not even dreaming about what happened the other night with the first friend having anything to do with this.

They then mentioned I said it to the friend.

I talked about how the night with the friend went it was fun and we both had a good time together. Even told them to ask said friend so they can understand, and they tell me that that friend had told them!

After which they say that they did ask the first friend, and then again to clarify, and that saying practicing Christianity and Witchcraft is wrong is intolerant. Then say that it's still not the only reason they don't want to talk anymore. And say they're ending the conversation there. I decided not to push them so I don't upset them.

Now I am in a Dungeons and Dragons group that has I don't know how many people that don't like me anymore 8 other people in the campaign and I know 3 at least still do. And that's not even counting the people outside of the campaign that might think that. I go to a very liberal left school and by nature a lot of my friends align with that ideology. I don't want to leave the campaign, we have a session tomorrow and I've made steps to move seats away from the people that don't wanna interact with me. What should I do? Should I leave? I don't think I want to but it's all so much

Tl;Dr: Friend A asked me if Christians can practice Witchcraft, I said they shouldn't. They tell other friends I said that and I'm now being shunned and called intolerant.

EDIT: Thank you all for responding, some of the responses have actually helped me attempt to rebuild my relationship with my friends! So I really really appreciate what this post has done for me. Thank you all for your help!

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