So for context, my boyfriend (M18) and I (M18) have been together for over 11 months now, and we have known each other for 4-5 years. We are also long distance, but we see eachother atleast once a month.

He was in his "party every weekend" phase about 6 months ago. I didn't have the time for that stuff. I wasn't really interested in it and didn't have anyone to go clubbing with anyway.

I told him about 3 months ago that I wanted to try it because it always seemed fun when he told me about it. But he said he doesn't do that anymore.

He got really close with one of my friends from my city, let's call that friend Jake. Jake and my boyfriend do a lot of stuff together. They have these "movie nights" over the phone and watch movies my boyfriend and I wanted to watch together. I know it's just a movie, but it kinda became our thing to watch movies over the phone because its just a fun activity to do when you can't actually hang out in person all the time.

And now they also started going to the club together. And while it was always Jakes idea, my boyfriend still went even though he always turned that idea down when I had it. They are literally in the club as I'm typing this.

It was actually my boyfriends sister-in-law's idea this time, because she and my boyfriends brother wanted to go and they asked my boyfriend and Jake, because they apparently knew that Jake was in town and they really like Jake.

Which is kinda another problem of mine. Jake is basically best friends with my boyfriends sister (they literally text daily), and brother and my boyfriends mom and Jake also get along really well.

It's not like my boyfriends family just doesn't like me or that we don't share any interests that one could talk about.

they just don't really talk with me. I always just sit there while my boyfriend talks with his family, and it's like I'm not even there most of the time. they talk about family stuff or gossip about the neighbours, so it's not like I can even say anything about that stuff. meanwhile, they include Jake in almost every conversation. Jake literally talked with my boyfriends mom for 4 hours straight while my boyfriend was just sitting next to them.

so ye im kinda mad at my boyfriend for always saying no to clubbing because "he doesn't do that anymore" but then going with Jake instead. and it's kinda annoying that I'm basically being ignored by his family.

and before any of you might say that there could be more going on with my boyfriend and Jake, I know for a fact that Jake wouldn't date my boyfriend. Jake is in some sort of situationship as well and that person is also in the club with them right now.

I just want to know if I am the asshole for being mad because my boyfriend makes me feel like I am whenever I address this issue. And i don't know maybe some of you have any suggestions for what I could do or something.