It’s so much deeper than that tho. I feel very bad for asking but idk I’m just so conflicted

I (22f) broke up with my (20m) boyfriend when they told me they were transitioning. I feel like such an awful person for this but it’s so much more than that.

We wernt happy though. We would fight constantly. Our sex life wasn’t great. I knew they could achieve more in life than being stuck in their room playing video games. So I begged them to study, I begged this person to be more social. I wanted to go out more and not be stuck playing video games and having unpassionate sex. I was so done with begging you to put in an effort. ( I was the one who made up every fight, I was the one who made the relationship work).

And eventually I got tired of it. So when you told me you weren’t capable of that change and being that person. I got upset and starting focusing on me.

And then after some time apart you finally told me that you can’t change into that person I wanted you cause we want different things and we are incompatible. You’re not that person. Because you want to transition.

you actually want to change gender i kinda took the opportunity because It all makes sense now why I felt like he was hiding his feelings ( which he was). Why he said he wasn’t capable of being a good boyfriend.

The whole time I was pressuring them to be a better person ( encouraging them self love, going out more, going to school/study) when they have been battling dysphoria this whole time and wanted to transition.

I realise that now. And I’m so sorry for holding you back. I wish you realized that I loved you so much that it wouldn’t have mattered to me. Your gender wouldn’t have mattered to me. But you wernt a good person to be in a relationship at that time, but

I will admit I’m bitter. I ended the relationship because you couldn’t be a better person during it. Why couldn’t you change in the relationship but commit to changing gender. i ended the relationship because of this and i took the easy way out when you said you were trans.

Because truth is it didn’t matter to me if you were trans. Because I love people for who they are

I’m bitter that you can commit to such a big change but couldn’t do it for me. The crazy thing is I would have supported them so much during this transition, just like I supported them the whole relationship.

We were but wernt happy but you can’t say the reason I dumped you cause you are trans.

Tom if you ever see this. I want to apologise so so much. I truly do. I’m sorry. I love you. I wish you nothing but the best and hope you live a peaceful life.

I just wish it was different.