My wife is friends with a lesbian couple, that's not what bothers me at all. The one I can tolerate and doesn't bother me but the other is a know it all, entitled POS. My wife knows I cannot stand the one and for the longest time thought I was just being mean until some things happened and proved my point.

It's my wife's birthday in a couple weeks and I was planning on leaving work early and taking her to dinner as a little surprise. We haven't been home or able to celebrate on her actual birthday in several years. My wife tells me the other day that she has plans with them for her birthday so she won't be home.

I think it's completely disrespectful that they did not reach out to me and see if we had plans already. They also wanted to plan something on the night of our wedding anniversary. Again didn't reach out to me about it. Fortunately, that fell through.

Am I wrong for hating then and not wanting to be around them?