Living with my dx partner for a few months and we’ve gotten so much closer and have been learning so much about one another. I have been reading lots about ADHD and I am noticing that we are getting stuck in the “parent-child” dynamic and it really stresses both of us out. He forgets to pay his own personal bills (netflix/hulu/credit cards, but not more immediate bills like rent or insurance), it took him two months to set up one single doctors appointment and only finally confirmed the appointment today after weeks of me reminding him daily.. and I feel like i am constantly just bitching. I feel myself being annoyed a lot and I’ve shared that with him and his response is “well just don’t be”- as in, just don’t stress out about anything. He sees himself as an easy going, go with the flow type of person but I cannot help but see him as irresponsible. I don’t understand how he’s functioned as an adult before we met? It frustrates me so bad and I know it frustrates him too because I literally hear myself sounding like a parent more and more towards him. I wanna find ways to be gentler or nicer about these things, because if this is going to be a long term relationship I can not be the one setting all the appointments and making sure bills are paid and making sure things get done, with no help. He starts therapy this next week, but he refuses to seek medication because he doesn’t “trust pharmaceuticals”-which is fine to me, i get it- but somethingggg has to be done. On both parts. Any advice? Thank you guys