I think I identified one of my issues with meetings!

Say there is an hour-long meeting planned for 3 PM. I begin on a task at 1 PM and after some activation struggles, achieve hyperfocus. Yay! Now it's 2:50PM and I get a notification a meeting will begin in 10 minutes. I think, "I'm so focused and in the flow, hopefully I can wrap this up in 10 minutes!" Yeah, that rarely happens...

So the meeting starts at 3 PM and I attempt to stop the process in my head, but it won't stop! I'm walking to the meeting and now I'm sending the kill process command to my head. It's now frozen,

I'm in the meeting and my mind can't stop thinking about the task I was working on. I can't wait to get back to the task as well. I try to pay attention, but it just sounds like "blah blah, wah-wah." Eventually after 30 minutes I can start paying attention (the kill command has succeeded, finally). If someone asks me a question in this context switching time it creates a lot of stress for me. Or I might not even notice!

By 4 PM, the meeting is over and I go back to work on my task. But I'm not able to activate and get back to where I was prior to the meeting until say 4:30 PM and now it's soon 5 PM and time to stop working for the day, However, I'm in the flow again. I dislike how much struggle it takes to get into the flow, and so I either keep working, or carry the work with me mentally.

This then creates two problems: 1) I get home late, or 2) when I am home I'm still thinking about work.

Now obviously one solution to this problem is to give myself a 30-minutes buffer (stop tasks 30 minutes before a meeting, and 30 minutes before leaving work).

However, if there are like 3 different meetings in a given day (pretty typical) that's 3 hours less available time I have for working. Since I can't always activate right away when I schedule to for reasons separate from context switching, this really feels like even less time available when I typically feel like I never have enough time in the day.

Am I looking at this wrong? Is there something else I can do that I haven't thought of?

Sometimes Adderall makes context switching an ease. I'd say maybe 1-2 days out of 5. But most of the days not so much. It can even intensify the difficulty of stopping. Especially if I feel an upcoming deadline and I'm focused on getting stuff done!

Side note: while a neurotypical probably would say: "We all go through that!" I feel like that's just not the case (maybe sometimes if they got 5 hours sleep instead of 8 or something). I've seen so many people work right up to a meeting. Stop. Go to the meeting. Contribute. Then go right back to work. How the hell do they do it?