Tldr: advice on how to help 8yo get through grade 2 with a teacher who can't handle the extent of his needs.

My (27f) son (8m) was diagnosed with "severe ADHD" at age 6. Basically, he checks nearly every single box, he has sensory processing disorder, and they suspect high functioning autism as well.

I'm currently at odds with his grade 2 teacher who sends me behavior updates on a daily basis only telling me all of the negative things about his days. Talking out of turn, not staying in his seat, distracted by peers, increase in vocal and motor tics affecting peers, becoming defensive when she confronts him about his behavior.

I've informed her that morning reminders and conversations outside of when things are actually happening only go so far and offered suggestions on how she can try to help him in the moment. I've offered to supply sensory aides, I don't send him without meds, I make sure we do morning reminders and evening conversations, and I'm just starting to really feel like she won't let up on him in the slightest and it's driving me nuts.

Any advice would be appreciated.