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So today, after a couple months journey of seeking help and finding out I have adhd, i finally got a prescription for adderall. Iā€™m 20 years old and when i found out i had adhd (and not just anxiety/depression like i originally sought help for) it was like my eyes were opened to a whole new world. Suddenly everything in my life made sense. I, like so many of you all, thought everyone else was going through the same things Iā€™ve been going through, and i just couldnā€™t figure out why i couldnā€™t ā€œkeep upā€ like everyone else could. Once i officially got diagnosed, i was kind of upset initially that i had this disadvantage that i had been dealing with my whole life, and couldnā€™t help but wonder what would have happened if i had been diagnosed sooner. I feel like i had wasted so much time and money on different aspects of my life, only to later get bored and abandon them. Recently, Iā€™ve been trying to be more positive about the ways that adhd has improved my life and to be thankful that i am this way. For example, only after getting bored with my steady high school boyfriend and breaking up with him did i realize all the toxic behavior in the relationship that i had completely overlooked previously (maybe due to my hyperfixation). If i hadnā€™t got bored with different majors in college, i wouldnā€™t have such a diverse base knowledge moving forward in my education.

My parents (who i live with right now) are not very keen on mental health. They are great parents and care for me very much, but they are uneducated on this topic, not understanding why i need therapy because, as my dad told me, ā€œis talking to me not good enough for you?ā€, and when i told my mom my therapist thought i might have adhd she said ā€œwhen i was growing up nobody had adhd, now everyone is diagnosed with itā€. Because of these types of interactions, i have refrained from telling my parents much more about my journey with my mental health. My mom did specifically tell me she wanted me to talk to her and my dad before being medicated if that were to happen, but they are pretty stubborn folk and while they can be introduced to new ideas, it takes a while for them to open their minds up. I want to keep them informed and respect their wishes, but Iā€™m afraid Iā€™ll be met with skepticism and doubt as to wether my condition is even real or if medication is really necessary. Any advice/experiences you all might have with this would be greatly appreciated.

Anyways, i have pretty much completely gone through this journey of discovering what adhd is/getting diagnosed and beginning to get medicated all by myself, with the support of my current boyfriend and grama, and it has been the most difficult yet most rewarding experience (mentally) that Iā€™ve ever gone through so far. Iā€™ve had to miss a lot of classes for appointments the last couple months, but as Iā€™m sitting here, writing this with a clear mind for the first time in a long time, i would have to say that it is entirely worth it. Just the main fact that what Iā€™m going through has a name and there is a community of you guys on here that struggle in the same ways i do has given me so much hope for the future, because surely if you guys can manage your adhd and be successful, functioning, adults, then i can too.

TL;DR; recently diagnosed, first day medicated, going through a huge self discovery phase where i realize how adhd is affecting me. Proud of myself for doing this for myself with little support. Need advice on how to deal with doubtful parents and also please share why you are thankful for your adhd and instances where it is a blessing, not a curse.

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