hi friends!! i made a post yesterday about rejection sensitivity in my relationship and wow i just wanted to say thank you all to those who gave me kind words and advice. I also cannot believe how common this for people, and how its not talked about more. the only reason why i know about RSD was cause I had to find it to figure out whats going on with me, I've never heard people actually talk about it in conversation except for myself.

anyways, since yesterday I had to do a tonnnnn of self reflection and basically spent my entire morning having an anxiety attack thinking my partner was going to leave me do to my sensitivities and mental health issues. I talked to a meditation teacher and we came to the conclusion that i often look to him to provide emotional safeness, which is unfair to the both of us.

I had been talking to my partner a lot about how I know I am not spending a lot of time alone, i've dropped my hobbies, and have really lost a lot of my identity. I even told him a couple days ago "I just love you so much id rather just be with you all the time". Looking back on that I'm surprised I didn't hear myself and go wtf lmao.

Long story short I basically realized I've slowly been developing co-dependency on my partner, and is why I feel like ive been struggling so much. I've dropped my own life to the point where I have neglected self love through dropping alone time and my hobbies. my partner has been warning me of this for a while but I never realized how much of a problem it really was. I've been going to therapy, but there is a complete lack of me time and my own self care / hobbies that I didnt understand were so essential to my happiness.

Has anyone else here with RSD realized they also struggle with codependency ? I am wondering if there is a correlation here.