I’m in my early fifties and have truly suffered with ADHD all my life, tried all available meds with no success. If anything I feel as though I’m somehow getting worse. I am aware of all my shortcomings and my wife has supported me within the family unit, and I have tried and tried so many times to reset and change but it never lasts too long before I’m wracked with ADHD paralysis. I haven’t had a sexual relationship with my wife for a long time. I cook dinner, I wash, I clean, I run everyone everywhere I do my best to do the things I can do.

The other day she said to me “ answer honestly, would you like our daughters to end up with a guy like you?”

And I’m not sure how to feel about it. On the one hand, if I’m being honest with myself, the answer is no. But at the same time, I truly feel that so much of this is out of my control that it’s akin to asking if say ‘would you want your daughter to be with a disabled guy’

I’m not sure if she was just being factual and I need to reflect on it, or whether it was just kicking someone when they were already obviously down.

I’ve got sessions booked with a psychologist but not for a month.

Aside from the ADHD, I’m a chill guy, I am pretty passive, I realise that we are all going through our own shit, NGL what she said really cut me and I don’t know what to do or what to feel about it.

The only thing I really know for sure is that if she’s asking me that question that’s what she thinks about me and so I probably need to leave the situation because mentally I’ve obviously outstayed my welcome.