Firstly, just wanna say how much I love this subreddit group.

Anyway. I’ve had a girl in my life for the past 3 years. I was sure and convinced she was the one.

A couple of years ago, she moved overseas and I couldn’t go with her at the time due to home and work. We did long distance for a while until she broke up with me. Last year, we were broken up most of the year, until she came back home for a holiday, and we reconnected. She wanted me back, and I accepted with the idea I would move overseas to her city and be with her. At the time I thought this was an opportunity to get the girl back, and right my wrongs of not going with her originally in the past.

I got to her city overseas earlier this year. But I really struggled with the more, change and transition of a new place, new life style and new daily habits. With my adhd it was hard to come out of my shell and feel myself and at home. 3-4 months later, she broke up with me.. again. I thought it was all because of how I was during the transition of being in a new place. She said partly that, but mainly she thinks we just don’t belong together. I tried convincing her I could change, until I realised maybe I shouldn’t, or can’t.

Anyway, my heart is broken and with my adhd comes intense and hyper emotions. I’m lost and confused and stuck. I still think I can get her back, by doing x y and z. Even though I know that’s foolish.

How do you guys manage heartbreak and losing someone you love and someone you thought was the one?