So my partner will rearrange stuff in the house constantly. Bookcases in different places, the deep freeze moved into the bedroom, couch against one wall one day then against another wall the next day, the bed, the pantry, everything is always in constant flux.

I understand it is comforting for him, gives him a sense of control in a chaotic word, but for me it's the opposite.

In a chaotic world, I love that there's a space somewhere and it's as I want it to be. In a world that's always changing and never the same, it's comforting I have somewhere to go that will be the way I left it, the way that I like it. I know what to expect and I can ground and centre myself there... well... that's what I would like anyway.

His sense of control means I have even less control.. even in my own living space.

I go to the kitchen to make a sandwich.. when I go to grab a knife it's not where it used to be. He throws out the container I used to store my tea in because he had a better storage idea in mind... for something he doesn't even use. I put things I USE in a place where it works for me, but he decides there's a better place for me.

I get stressed out trying to do anything because it turns into a scavenger hunt before I can even begin. And after a long day of work and pressure and stress...I just want a space I feel I can relax in, something i can rely on.

Does anyone have any tips? Has anyone encountered this and found ways to deal with it? It's honestly making me depressed and I don't know what to do about it.

I say that I don't like it and the reasons why but ultimately it's a matter of him needing to do it in order to be happy.