You missed that train

You lost your phone

You lost your phone (again)

You forgot that event

You got "too loud and excited" in that conversation

And it goes on and on and on...

And each time, you tell yourself:

"I'm such an idiot" "Why can't I just f*****g remember" "People must hate me" "I'm too much"

You feel disappointed, enraged, hopeless, it cuts deep I know. I wish I could take away all the pain and frustration every person in this community feels on an almost daily basis from this condition. If only I could.

All I can offer is a small thing that is helping me, and that is to remind yourself as incidences happen that there is a difference between taking accountability and self-flagellation.

It is good to take responsibility for the ADHD mishaps that happen and brainstorm tactics/techniques to help future incidences it is NOT okay to tell yourself that you're a shitty person as a result.

If you were to fall over and graze your knee, you wouldn't grab a knife and slice the wound deeper as punishment

If you are reading this and can relate, know that I wish you every bit of self-worth and self-kindness